What it's Like Being Young & Married So Far

So it’s almost been about 3 months married and I can honestly say that these last few months have been the best 3 months of my life so far. Being married young is awesome! Being married in general is a beautiful thing.  You should be so connected to that person that you can’t imagine life without them and you know without a shadow of a doubt that God created that person just for you and that they were created to be your spouse. When God created Khalid God was thinking about me and when God created me He was thinking about Khalid and how absolute we’d fit together.

There is not a day that goes by that Khalid doesn't make me laugh.  He is there always encouraging me and helping me to become all that I can be. He is always pushing me to God and he is patient with me. I don’t believe our marriage would be so peaceful if it hadn't been for us both giving our lives to God before we got married. Read our Courting story here if you haven’t already.

In our courting stage we decided to stop doing anything that was physical and we focused on getting to know each other as Spirit to Spirit, which is what we truly are. We are Spirits having a human experience in earthly bodies. If we are only attracted to someone because of their outer shell then it won’t work because you won’t know how to effectively communicate with that person and minister to who they really are by speaking life into their spirit.

I still get butterflies just holding his hand because I know how patiently I have waited to do so. Kissing him makes me warm with joy all over. I enjoy just lying in the bed being cuddled up with him, I love talking with him and him understanding me sometimes without me even having to say anything, when I might be feeling a little down he knows just what to say to lift my spirit again and when I am away from him it feels like a part of me is missing, I can’t stand it. I honestly believe without him I wouldn't be what I am today. Without any questioning I know God created us to be together. We have endless fun I am so blessed to be married to my best friend.

Here are a few questions I have received since being married.

Q: Is it any different being married?

A: Yes! It’s extremely different. For one there are no restrictions and we now get to be intimate with one another how God intended it to be within a marriage between a husband and a wife. Not only that, but I feel like we are extremely intertwined with one another. Now I understand what the Word means when it says two flesh become one. I truly feel like I am one with my husband because spiritually we are connected now because we made a covenant with God. I came from Khalid’s rib and no one else’s.

Genesis 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Q: Have you had any big arguments yet?

A: As I said in my blog post Our Not So Ordinary Courting Story we don’t yell or argue, we talk things out if we don’t agree with something. I will admit there have been times when my flesh wanted to be prideful and stubborn, but those are the times when I have to seek God’s voice the most. He will tell me to listen to Khalid and apologize when I was in the wrong. Other than that my husband knows me and he knows how to handle me and keep me in check, and I can say the same about me for him too.

Q: How’s married life?

A: Lol, this is a no brainier question and I suppose we will get this question asked often in the beginning; hence the title of the post, but married life is awesome and I am so happy that God has placed us together, I feel extremely blessed to experience such a beautiful thing.

Other than that those are some common questions we get. If you have any other questions yourself feel free to ask. Of course with anything you have to put in work. I would say the best advice that I have for married couples is to communicate. It’s good to listen to your spouse and be genuinely concerned and interested with what they want to talk to you about, or if they are having something that they want your input about. Also you have to be on the same page to make it work. I wouldn't advise anyone to be unequally yoked. Be with a person who loves God the same as you do, if not even more so they will encourage you to go higher in God.

If your foundation is set on God it will be strong and unbreakable. Include God and God will bless it. You CAN do this!

                                                     Love and happiness, 

                                                            ♥Shaniqua

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Taking Leaps of Faith

Lately I have been taking really big leaps of faith and believing God to do what He says He is going to do through my life.

In life there are many choices one must make and many of them permanent so it’s important to look at the consequences and longevity of our actions.  At the same time we must learn how to trust God and not over think things. Sometimes God can be telling us to go a certain route, but we are too busy looking at all of the negatives and “what if’s” then we second guess if it was God who really told us to do that in the first place. The enemy likes to replace God’s voice and direction with fear and worry. The main reason why fear cannot operate with faith is because it holds us back from the doing the will that God has placed over our lives. Fear can literally paralyze a person from living the life God called them to live because they become too busy questioning if they can really succeed. Learn to trust in God. Yes you can succeed! Yes you can do it! Through Christ all things are possible; it just takes making that first move.

Faith without works is dead. James 2:17.

Trusting in God means relying on His direction and knowing that He has your best interest and it means going with His ways. I encourage you to trust Him. You might not know or understand how you will be able to achieve your dreams, but God is faithful, He already has it planned out and He will order your steps if you just follow Him. Our source comes from Him. He will give you the tools necessary to fulfill your desires. Take that leap of faith. Be motivated and know that you can achieve all things through Christ. Don’t just chase after you dreams grab a hold of them and achieve them. You CAN this!

Love and happiness, 


♥Shaniqua

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Keeping Yourselves from Idol Worship

First I want to get into what idols or idolatry is. Idolatry is a form of worship and excessive devotion to a person or a thing. Whatever you put more time into than you do with God becomes your God because you are pursing it more than you are pursuing Him. God comes first and He is a jealous God. He wants you to love His ways and hate all forms of wickedness Psalm 97:10.

Back in the old testament idol worship was where they bowed down to chucks of wood, gold or carved images even though some religions still do that today, the more modern form of idol worship is where people actually worship other people for their gifts. They become so infatuated or attracted to the person’s gift that they don’t care if the person disrespects God’s Word as long as they claim to believe in God, it's OK right? Wrong...

Lately God has been placing in my heart His disappointment for the way the church is placing things or people before Him and how they find great entertainment and joy in watching sin and filth. We should be more careful of the things we let enter into our Spirits because whether we know it or not it has a great effect to our Spirit and over our life.

Matthew 6:22-23 “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness! “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other.

Our eyes are a window to our soul. Whatever we are feeding our eyes becomes a direct filter to our soul, and if we think it’s actually good to watch we become greatly deceived and the addiction becomes even harder to break. Therefore we should not be looking at garbage. One compromise leads to another, and when we write a sinful show off as "simply entertainment" we deceive ourselves. Why waste your time on reality shows(or any other show) looking at someone else’s life when you have a purpose for your own life to do for God. Time is precious and that one hour that you used looking at the fake drama on TV could’ve been used working on your purpose, or building the Kingdom of heaven on earth. Those shows, movies, and even what you read plants seeds. If what you’re reading or watching involves things that are not glorifying to God put it away. It won’t be too long before you’re compromising God's morals or even envisioning yourself in their shoes and wanting what they have. Then it will keep a firm grip on you to want to watch it more and more, therefore seeking it before seeking the kingdom of God. Just look at the delirious fans who flock to these people concerts and will pour their eyes out in tears. They become devoted to that person or thing, and will set aside one hour or more out of every week to watch their favorite show or catch up on their favorite "celebrity", but do they even do that much for God? 

Do you find more pleasure in watching those reality shows, football and basketball games, or reading those “romance” novels (more like soft porn novels) then you do spending time in God’s Word? Whatever you find more joy in then you do spending time with God becomes your idol.

America is all about the worship of others and about self-pleasure. Instead of following the culture, follow Jesus. It has become so in your face that shows like American Idol will place it right in their title what the point of their show is all about. It’s to create an idol that people will flock to, to buy their music and albums. God wants your total alliance to be with Him and Him only. It's just sad how I see these little girls and boys obsessed with people who are not even good role models.

It even comes down to the music we listen to. If the musician is not glorifying God and pretty much goes against everything Christ stands for and spits on His word by disregarding it, why would you want to support them by listening to their music? We have to be loyal to the one we decide to serve. It doesn't matter if the artist profess Christ are they living Christ like?

The devil will throw anything at you to try to make your relationship with God become a second factor and to make you compromise, because he knows if he can do that then it gives him full authority to have his way in your life. Because if you are not putting God first then you are putting Him last and something else is influencing you more.

And Jesus knew this that’s why he got so upset when the devil told him to bow down and worship him.

Jesus said to him, "Away from me, Satan! For it is written: 'Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.'" Matthew 4:10

Worship also means a complete admiration or adoration to a person or thing. We have to stop looking at people’s “gifts” and start discerning their spirit and are they producing holy fruit or are they shaking their rumps and displaying their cleavage for the world to see? That is not of God and we shouldn't be promoting ungodliness.

So whatever you do, ask yourself is it bringing glory to God, if not put it away because in everything we must put God first. As warned in 1 John 5:21 Dear children, keep yourselves from idols. You can do this!

Love and happiness, 


♥Shaniqua

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